«Wait, So Is This a romantic date?»: Another Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Thank you for visiting
«Wait, So Is This A Night Out Together»
the podcast about queer relationship there is a constant knew you usually needed, hosted by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was born from Drew and I also’s shared love of voice memos and strong conversations about online dating. We’ve been delivering each other vocals memos for over a-year now, going deeply in the circumstances received loves about dating (people! enjoyable! flirting!) plus the situations I hate about online dating (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having a lot of fun, careful, and insightful talks and honestly, it appeared rude to deprive the higher community ones!

Contemplate you since your friendly community co-hosts, guiding you through very particular queer relationship conundrums because in all honesty, directly dating podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG tales? How will you take long, drawn-out flirting to the next level? How much does it suggest to think people are into you? We’ll chat with some of Autostraddle’s best people, play some extremely certain video games, document on our very own pop tradition crushes of the moment as well as, just be sure to respond to the endless concern of one’s instances:

Wait…is this a romantic date???

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. And this refers to

Wait, Is This a romantic date?

An Autostraddle podcast that will be focused on the question, «hold off, is it a date?»

Drew:

I am thus excited discover.

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Christina:

Yeah. I do believe we have been on a trip to find out exactly what are times and just what are not dates, as friends, and as a people, I do believe.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Meaning, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians just what all of our entire indealment is, like whatever you’re up to contained in this second?

Drew:

Like which our company is?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m able to go initially. I am Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, website. I really do a lot of movie and television criticism, and intercourse and dating writing, and personal essays, and issues that merge all of those things. I’m trans and I am a lesbian, and I also feel i ought to include a 3rd thing because things are in threes. Just what otherwise? Just what more?

Christina:

Things do carry on threes. You really have fantastic tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thank you.

Christina:

You have got amazing locks, I think that is important.

Drew:

Those tend to be my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic hair.

Christina:

Those tend to be your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I have constantly mentioned that you might be a woman of hair experience. I have always mentioned that in regards to you.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is vital.

Christina:

Yeah. I am Christina Tucker. I am also an author at Autostraddle, as much as possible accept it, whom produces about… oh, why don’t we merely say whatever pops into their heads. That is actually the vibe. Additionally a lesbian. I’m Ebony. I am not sure who more i will be.

Drew:

You will also have fantastic hair.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, i am talking about, i do believe this is certainly maybe a podcast of locks experience. Maybe that should be our tagline, «a podcast of tresses knowledge.» I assume the people are probably wondering how exactly we reached this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every neat thing in daily life — and also by that I mean, extremely, not too many — it began as a highdea, as something I sent you in a voice memo, high. And heading back further than that, we started delivering sound memos together in the beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am only going to inform you like feelings that I have, and then you can go after that and respond to myself, not respond to me personally, whatever. I’m like, this might be me personally being drive and clear. Okay. Im somebody who… I favor dealing with dating. It is certainly one of my main topics of discussion. You will find today stated my personal portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thank you for saying your piece. Also, six moments and 54 moments. Honestly, rather remarkable to get that in that timeframe. I not really contemplate dating. I think, perhaps, an opposite sense of you and your like to contemplate online dating and discuss online dating and, like, be internet dating. I believe those tend to be my personal feelings. Really, i am sending a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length vocals memo today. I’m going to send this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I understand that you do not think about internet dating, definitely not whenever me personally, maybe less than anybody else I know?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe about matchmaking less than virtually anyone I also learn. I don’t know. I really have no idea if I’ve came across anybody who willn’t consider online dating in so far as I perform or in so far as I you shouldn’t, I guess.

Drew:

We don’t really know both. We were co-workers at Autostraddle, but for those who don’t know, Autostraddle is actually a virtual a workplace. It is more of a Slack situation than a, everyone appear to like lesbian headquarters and briefcases. That’s not truly the ambiance. We don’t really know both. Following, the start of pandemic, there is some DM sliding several friendship building several sound memoing. So we would always joke that it was like we’d a podcast because we might deliver these very long voice memos. Then as I ended up being stoned, I was want, «We really should.» And right here the audience is.

Christina:

Yeah. I realize that which you imply by high some ideas not at all times becoming the number one ideas, but i really do have an extremely clear remembrance of hearing you declare that being like, «Yeah, obviously we have to have a podcast. We’re executing each different. Why not ask others engrossed?»

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Normally my large tactics are such things as, «Oh my personal God, there ought to be a TV tv show called

Discover The Superstar Twin,

in which you grab a high profile right after which they fulfill an individual who — like an arbitrary individual that provides their particular same delivery chart. That can, is regarded as my personal large tactics that I think is great. It Really Is like…

Christina:

Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Drew:

That is a totally free one. I don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it isn’t really. Drew, I’m acquiring you money, I am going to become your money supervisor for this. Definitely not.

Drew:

I just need to see these things on earth. Fundamentally, this is exactly a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And something of the reasons why it is that topic, in the place of any number of other activities Christina and I also explore, is simply because Everyone loves online dating and Christina does not love dating which is a great little.

Christina:

Less of an admirer.

Drew:

And conflict is actually… this is where drama happens. I think Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Absolutely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that’s the subject. We’re going to include all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We’re going to speak about all the most useful queer matchmaking conundrums, matchmaking via Instagram.

Drew, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Correct me personally basically’m completely wrong, but I think Instagram is best queer online dating app.

Shelli, in sound video from potential occurrence:

One thousand per cent. Simple fact is that most readily useful.

Christina, in sound clip from future episode:

I have heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential episode:

Definitely. It offers you virtually all you need, except if a person’s exclusive. But even if you’re exclusive, baby, I’ll learn exactly about you, some type of means.

Drew, in audio video from future occurrence:

We will explore ideal gender we have now ever endured.

Dani, in audio video from potential episode:

And I finally questioned like, «No, did you run over right here getting intercourse? Are we probably have sex?» And additionally they were like, «Yeah, that is what i desired.» Also it was actually like, the pet as well as the dog happened to be in the place so there had been cat and dog hair every-where. And I also had been like, positively having an allergic impulse although we were making love. The orgasm had been, like, chef’s kiss. It was the most perfect knowledge.

Drew, in sound clip from future episode:

Wow.

Christina, in audio video from future episode:

We ask yourself when it’s one thing towards hives that actually added. Like a little ‘jenesequa’ to that climax experience. It absolutely was like, «Ooh, I’m just a little itchy additionally.» I question how much cash that aspects. We are writing about just how to split with others.

Ro, in sound clip from potential episode:

It is like a tremendously straight culture thing, as well.

Christina, in sound clip from potential episode:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio clip from future occurrence:

At the least in my experience, i’m like… My directly buddies are those that very likely to say, «Well, shag that person. That individual sucks,» easily end a relationship with some one. Whereas, queer people in living are the ones that more likely to keep friendships with exes or at least see all of our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in audio clip from future event:

Anything you could imagine in a dating podcast, and I’m perhaps not gonna sit for you folks, in addition more. Over you might previously consider.

Drew, in sound video from future occurrence:

When you’re sexting via text, could it possibly be like what you would like all of them… are you currently undertaking role-plays of a situation, like «you’re touching me personally nowadays» or «I wish you were holding,» what tense tend to be we in?

Kayla, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Yeah, I happened to be attending ask alike question, actually, because that’s something’s usually fascinating in my experience, specially simply because we are all writers, in addition.

Christina, in audio video from future event:

I became browsing state, several authors like, «What tense tend to be we functioning?»

Kayla, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Perspective.

Christina, in audio clip from future event:

Its a detailed 3rd, what is actually occurring here?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

Like, purely 2nd?

Drew:

Listed here is the thing about queer individuals. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull up a chair. Thank you for visiting your own TED Chat. Let us go off.

Drew:

We so many experiences and are also so much more interesting. Simply whenever I take into account the method in which directly folks discuss online dating, it’s so boring. And that I think-so typically, queer matchmaking conversations are extensions associated with main-stream online dating discussion, but including things like «being released» and «first-time you are with a blah, blah, blah.» It’s like — there’s a lot more nuance in so many more… It’s therefore interesting. What some sort of it is, queer sex and queer relationship.

Christina:

We’ve taken such as the extremely traditional types of dull design of heterosexual dating and really delivered it into a unique globe, full of very long talks and running all of our emotions. Its incredible work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am actually excited and I also hope everyone tend to be excited, because our basic episode is released a week from today following, there’ll end up being new periods every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been one week until such time you’ll hear all of our podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not only get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you’re going to get

Wait, Is This A Romantic Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And that I co-host both, if you don’t like me, i assume you are not hearing Autostraddle podcasts. If in case you are doing anything like me, you are welcome.

Christina:

Additionally, unless you like Drew, mature, is exactly what i need to say.

Drew:

I’m not for all, I’m okay with this. I do believe it’s probably good to not for all of us.

Christina:

Positive. I believe which is totally fair. And perhaps a topic we’re able to go over using one your potential episodes. What the results are if you are perhaps not for everyone? We adored that I went like, «Ooh, let’s get this to all inclusive.» What the results are when you, we, as individuals. You mentioned, why don’t we perform a whole episode pertaining to, «Can you imagine I’m not for everyone?»

Drew:

Really, it’s Leo season and I also’m a Leo climbing and I decided that makes it about me. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. Thank you so much quite definitely.

Drew:

We are double Leo risings with this podcast, and that’s part of the reason why it will be so great. You can pay attention to us anywhere you hear your podcast. It will likely be a fairly regular podcast circumstance. Absolutely nothing fancy, no riddles would have to be solved to find the occurrence, it will be immediately for your family.

Christina:

Not the employer people. There are several options, carry out what you should.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you can find you on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you may e-mail united states at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And get a hold of me on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal name in today’s tense.

Christina:

I have looked over your own social networking accounts several times and that I haven’t, until this second, discovered it is «draw.» Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that is the thing, Drew was used and that I do not know how… Oh, I became dating some body that… really this individual just who we dated, I didn’t get alot away from that connection, except I stated this concept and she thought it actually was therefore funny, like as well amusing, honestly, like area of the issue, i believe possibly. And I also ended up being encouraged to get it done, after which it’s just stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes men and women believe I’m an aesthetic musician while know very well what, i enjoy be thought of in that way, but i cannot, I don’t genuinely have design skills.

Christina:

I will state there is nothing much more about brand for Drew than getting like, «Oh, that is the Twitter handle.» While becoming want, «really, it’s a funny tale about matchmaking.»

Drew:

Indeed, exactly.

Christina:

Perfect.

Drew:

What exactly are your own personal manages, consequently they are they linked to the romantic life?

Christina:

Just, no. Available me at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the internet site. Of course, if you want to get a hold of myself on Instagram, can help you very, at @christina_gracet. And it is really fearless of us to know my personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Amazing work.

Christina:

Thanks really.

Drew:

It’s always a delight to speak with you and i am so excited to dive into all of these interesting subject areas. As well as the listeners to arrive at understand united states a little bit much better and get to… i do believe we can all, i believe we are all likely to discover on this subject trip.

Christina:

I hope thus. I enrolled in understanding.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school course of podcasts. That made it appear to be a total bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I’m not sure. I experienced some excellent school courses.

Christina:

Certainly, I did too, but Really Don’t need to make anybody—

Drew:

Can you picture how amazing it would be any time you turned up to your school class and either of us was actually the teacher, or we coached a category together, that’d become hottest thing actually. Individuals is like…

Christina:

Finest violation around. Enrollment is from the data.

Drew:

Oh, we ought to have an occurrence which is focused on hot professors. That’s not related.

Christina:

That is not maybe not related. We’ll declare that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. Personally I think like there may be — you should make it some wider, but who knows? You never know what’s going to be in the near future, and that’s truly exciting. And you also know who can understand? You, listener, as soon as you stay tuned every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned while crucially hit that old subscribe key and you may go out with us every Wednesday and ask your self, «Understanding a night out together?»

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That gives me personally to… I’m not sure. I happened to be simply thinking… was this a romantic date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This can be a podcast trailer.

Drew:

Oh, sweet. Okay. Great. Okay. I do believe i am obtaining the hang of it therefore understand what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I asked, today I’m sure, and today in direct communication is truly exactly what it’s exactly about.

Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

Plus one that the majority of people in our community could find out. And in addition we’re going to, hopefully, this is actually a site. This is exactly less of a podcast and much more of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I happened to ben’t conscious of that, but I’m happy to find out that we are having both a podcast and a political work. Two of the best situations. Two of my favorite things to start off with P, podcasts and governmental acts.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe my personal instinct is if I really like one and I also want them during my life, i understand the simplest way in my situation to ensure that they’re within my every day life is to make them a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m only thus glad that individuals’ve come to be such friends. If in case out of quarantine, that is what occurred, we made this amazing brand-new buddy, just who I favor dearly and that I’m only pleased to speak with you always, like exactly what something special.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I had a thought and it also went out. It had been honestly probably really brilliant.